I'm feeling a bit blue today...
It's a gorgeous spring day - the sun has been up since 6am and so have I. I've done the normal Sunday things: made coffee, made a lovely breakfast, thought about going to church then procrastinated until it was too late, moved living room clutter from one room into the other, etc.
It's 9:30am now and I have the whole day ahead of me. Why should I be so blue? It's pathetic really. My husband is off on a job today, so he'll be gone the entire day. Normally I love a day alone, and do everything I can to help him get going so he can be out the door as fast as possible.
Today however, the fact that we've lived in this city for four flippin' years, and I don't have one single girlfriend that I can call to say come over, let's have gin and tonics and ready trashy magazines on the deck. Oh, I'm not so pathetic that I don't have any friends, I guess I have a few. One old friend who's moved here along the same path as me - Vancouver to Toronto, Toronto to New York - but she's newly pregnant and naturally in a nesting mode, and she's just not someone who is very spontaneous. We need to make plans weeks ahead and bless her, when we do get together we have a fantastic time. I have another friend (more of an acquaintance) that I met through a friend, but again, just not someone that I'm close enough to that I could issue a casual last minute invite too.
How do you go about making great friends in a new place when you're a 43 year old woman?
We don't have children, so meeting other people at kid-type events is out. We don't have pets, so making friends over the shared humiliation of picking up dog poo is out. We both work like crazy, and the people we work with just aren't very friendly. There used to be a few of us that would at least go for a drink on Friday's, but that seems to have faded away.
Some hope is on the horizon, fingers crossed. At a museum event a few weeks ago I met a very interesting man, and we've exchanged a few emails. I also met a pretty insane woman at a work event a few weeks ago, and she issued an instant invitation to join her and her 26 friends and family to see Bette Midler in Las Vegas in October. I may just go, I have to decide next week.
We (husband and I) have been talking about having a big old party in May or June. Maybe that's the way to make great friends. Invite over everyone you've ever met and kept a business card from in the last year, serve a pile of drinks, some beef satay and amuse bouche on little spoons, then hope for friend chemistry.
I'm going to start putting that party together now.
Sunday, March 30, 2008
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